Wednesday, November 04, 2009

Suck It...Just Suck It

I have a problem. Yes, I know, many of you have thought that already, but here’s the thing…

I need some pretty damn powerful antibiotics, and my paperwork is askew, so I am not getting them and have missed a dose or two.

Hopefully, that will be rectified by 10 A.M. on Wednesday. I can deal with that.

Here’s my bigger problem…

Many of you have been so kind with your e-cards, phone calls, emails, and offers of sex once I get well, that I am overwhelmed.

I am overjoyed by your outpouring of good will and sense of decency as it relates to caring for a fellow human being. In my case…me.

However, between Friday and Tuesday night, my situation has also brought out the worst in some people. It is that fact that I’d like to touch upon, illuminate, and forever get out of the way.

Friday night I received in hospital room a call from a woman (who could be a sister) asking how I was doing. I said, “I’m getting better, but wished I was outta here.”

After that remark, I was full frontally attacked by words that echoed the phrases,


“Why didn’t you call me? Are you too good for me? You told everyone else. Oh just never mind….click.”

Nice.

The truth is, is that when I went into the hospital, I called my brother Marty (a day later), and no one else. Between Schmoop posting and calls from Marty to others, no one was notified by me. Oh well…I’ll live with my selfishness.

But eh, that kinda thing is family and is easily dealt with. However, here’s the kicker to all of this…

Late Sunday afternoon, Ryno came up to the hospital with his mom. For two minutes, it was fun. I was seeing my son and I was happy.

She commented on how nice it has been because I work on the house, tutor Ryno, and am always around should she or Ryno need me.

And then…

Ryno’s mom said, “Does that chest tube stretch far enough for you to go to the bank?” Once again…nice.

A mixture of sadness, humiliation, and anger overcame me. They stayed for about 20 minutes after that, but I couldn’t be myself. I was hurt.


There was no money. There was no check. And she knew it, but she wanted the 59% of my take home pay that I always give her.

Monday night I got released…late. Evidently my son called ten minutes after I got discharged. I hadn’t call him because I knew that he had B-Ball practice.

Yesterday, I got verbally trashed by Ryno’s mom because I didn’t call (although I called him at 7 A.M. Tuesday morning) and let him know that I was out.

I called Ryno’s mom Tuesday night in order to voice my displeasure over her “anger”. She went on a rant about what a jerk and whore that I am.

Whatever…I can take slurs against me that are not true…But what gets me is that we have been getting along so well for so long. So why the change?

It’s because of the money that she won’t be getting for two weeks…I told her that, and yet, she claims that she is hurt for Ryno.

What a crock, what a liar, and what a coward she be.

If you truly hate me; tell me such. It’s not like we haven’t done that to each other before.

Of course, we were married then, and there was no win or lose. Today, you are worried about what you can get…and me?

I’m more concerned about who I can make happy.

Cheers and Suck It!!


I Now Have My Drugzzzzzz. Yippee!!

37 comments:

David said...

>>>>Many of you have been so kind with your e-cards...offers of sex once I get well

First let me clarify for the reading audience that not even once did I offer sex.

But on a serious note - based on my personal experinece, even the most congenial of people are turned into raving maniacal enemies by the divorce process. I'm saddened (in your case as with pretty much all non-custodial parents) that you have been treated with such disrespect and hostility to demean your strong role as a father. This annoys me to no end.

Starrlight said...

Your ex wife sounds like a cunt. There's really no other way to spin it.

Jay said...

Dude, I know you were lying there in the hospital with tubes in ya and getting bombarded by tons of antibiotics and shit, but what about THEM??? Huh? What. About. THEM?

Unfortunately I've known far too many people like this.

I used to work with a girl who broke up with her fiance and said "I realize his dad just died and all, but what about me?"

I shit you not. He dodged a bullet there.

Keep getting better dude.

katherine. said...

when a family member is ill....all kinds of undercurrents surface. Too often people forget the person who is ill and focus on their own emotions and reactions....doesn't make it acceptable or allowable...it just isn't unusual.

Your exwife has always sounded like a conniving selfish woman who uses your son as a bargaining chip and bludgeoning tool.

Right now maybe you need to focus on getting well...and not getting all caught up in the behavior of those who upset you.

in my personal option...you should have called your son when you were released...practice or not...but you probably guessed that

Dana said...

Well hell! I offered sex - in the hospital bed even - and *I* didn't get even a flicker of hope out of you! Pfftttt!

Look, I'm just glad you are feeling better and hope you continue to improve. Does that make me a bad person??

Scott Oglesby said...

Thank God you’re getting better. I really hope you can get those antibiotics this morning….If not Schmoop can propobly get some by going across the street and explaining the situation to the staff that just discharged you…you can’t miss to many doses or that shit will come back to life and bite. Don’t mean to be pushy but just make sure you get them….yea?

I think a big part of what you experienced in the negative was based out of fear of the two people in question losing you. There is nothing like being admitted to a hospital to drive home fear. I don’t know your exact situation with child support but, if it’s not court ordered maybe you could see about taking care of Ryno on an ‘as needed’ basis, at least for now. I know when people have a constant source of income it gets spent. (The more you make the more you spend rule) But if you just take care of needs as they arise it would be much less money now, and you’d be able to squirrel away money for his college, or down payment on a house, or whatever. –Just my opinion.

Just keep concentrating on getting better for now. And get the damn antibiotics…….

Matt-Man said...

David: I hear what you're saying but the thing is is that we have been getting along well for quite some time. Cheers David!!

Starr: Ha. I fully expected you to chime in with your typical succinctness. Cheers Starr!!

Kat: I'mm already over the personal dramam; I just needed to rant. I am just hoping to quickly get my scrip problem fixed this morning. Cheers Kat!!

Matt-Man said...

Dana: Me not accepting an offer of sex from you or anyone else illustrates just how sick I was . Cheers Dana!!

Scott: I am going to the hospital at 9 this morning in order to get things straightened out. Cheers Scott!!

Micky-T said...

I got to agree with Scott...you can't take breaks with antibiotics.

Those meds are vital, you HAVE to have them. If it's money that's holding you back call your brothers. Don't be to proud. If it's paperwork do as Scott says get across the street to the hospital and let them know, see how fast you'll get them then.
Forget about the people who suck right now, you need you first!

Matt-Man said...

Mick: Hellooooo? Is this thing on? I had taken care of the paperwork...It's the paperwork that got botched bewteen the Hospital and the Pharmacy. I meet with the chick in charge of the program this morning at nine. I was doing everything I could yesterday to get the problem rectified. I haven't dropped the med ball, they did. Cheers Mick!!

Phfrankie Bondo said...

...mind if I ebitch-slap your ex?...

Matt-Man said...

Phfrankie: Eh, thanks...but it wouldn't matter. Six months from now she'd pull another Sybil episode on me. She is quite perplexing. Cheers P-Man!!

Lu' said...

Phfrankie, ebitch-slap his Sister while you are at it. I think it is possible that your ex is coming off like such a BITCH because she was scared for you as well as her and Ryno. She may not have known how she really felt until she thought of their life without you in it. She sure as hell wasn't going to show you that emotion. You mentioned you were getting along so well... I would have been hard pressed not to have smacked her in the fucking head for the remark about the bank in your hospital room had I been there to hear it.

snugs said...

Unsensitive as it was, she is a single mom and I imagine very dependent on the child support. Her fear over how she is going to feed her son for the next two weeks probably clouded her ability to show compassion for you since she also feels like a victim in this situation. I am not excusing her behavior at all, but I would like to know how she qualified for 59%! As for the meds, I am confused, you take the piece of paper to the pharmacy and exchange it along with some money for a bottle of pills..

Matt-Man said...

Lu: And all of what you just said illustrates one of the reasons as to why I dig you so much. Cheers Lu!!

Dianne said...

all kinds of gunk comes out when you're ill and some family members are less than thoughtful or, as others have said, when they don't deal well with their own fears

I've been going thru that here for over a year now - my disability really fucks up other people's plans

I'm selfish like that

hope you get your meds Matty

Michele said...

Is it just me that thinks it is a tad inappropriate to be complaining about money while someone is in the hospital? When Ms. Narcissist pulls her head out of her hinney she may realize it.

Matt-Man said...

Snugs: While I agree that she is entitled to the money, there is hardly any fear over how she is going to feed her son for two weeks, and I don't think her being comapssionate and allowing me to make up the difference over the next few checks is anywhere near out of the realm of decency and common sense.

As for the scrip...it got effed up. And now I have hopefully had it corrected and will be picking up pmy meds in 30 minutes or so. Cheers Snugs!!

As for the 59%...she didn't qualify for that amount, I give her more than I have to because I am a pretty good guy, and I love my son. You'd think that would matter in this instance.

Matt-Man said...

Dianne: Ha. Quit ruining everbody's life would ya, dammit!? I think I shall have them soonly. Talk atcha later, Di. Cheers!!

Michele: I found it to be perplexing. I mean, it's not as if I didn't know I wasn't paying her while I was off of work. Or...perhaps I contracted this respitory mess so I wouldn't I HAVE to pay her. I am devious, you know. Cheers Michele!!

Marilyn said...

Some people just can't communicate or look beyond their own noses. Sounds like she's lying to herself about why she's upset even. My mom does that. In fact... you ex sounds a lot like my mom. I feel bad for you but worse for Rhyno.

Matt-Man said...

Marilyn: I completely understand what you're saying. Ryno certainly does love his mom as he should, but yeah, I feel sad for him sometimes as well. Cheers Marilyn!!

Clay Perry said...

you're alive... thats step one... keep going & everything else will fall into place... next time you hand over money, make it all in pennies...

Matt-Man said...

Clay: I agree with you whole-heartedly Clay and I am going to keep pluggin away. And now, the scary thing...

Handing her rolls upon rolls of pennies came to my mind as well. You're a good man. Cheers Clay!!

David said...

Yeah!! Drugs in hand is good. Life with drugs in hand can be very good...well, the right drugs of course.

You can Call me AL said...

Matt-Man!!

Glad to see you're feeling better!

I feel sorry for the folks who are parched. Who's going to dispense the liquids without you there?
Folks need to get their priorities right!

Do what the Doc told you to do, don't be hardheaded! That stuff is nothing to mess around with!

Matt-Man said...

David: Indeed they can be good. These drugs however are merely boring antibiotics. But I am appreciative that they are swimming around inside of me. Cheers David!!

Matt-Man said...

Al: Hiya Al...I'm always happy to see ya chime in. They have the B Teamn working the Beer Mine, but I will be returning to the ranks of the employed on Friday afternoon.

I am doing everything that I was told, and I have also already made a follow up appt. with the Lung Doctor for Monday morning. I'm being a good boy. Cheers and Thanks, Al!!

Andy said...

Beatch.

Hey - stretch that face over here so I can knock it into tomorrow!

Matt-Man said...

Andy: Hee Hee. Good to see ya Anj. I don't get it...remember how nice she used to be? Okay, me neither, but it's lovely seeing you chime in. Cheers Andy!!

Desert Rat said...

I'll bet your ex was really scared that you were so sick and when she got squeezed from the outside all the ugly that was inside came oozing out. That's very aggravating when you had been getting along so well. Perhaps it was just her way of coping with the very real fear of losing you.

I know when someone I love gets hurt or sick I get mad and then I go sit in the closet and cry (but I never make THEM feel shitty about it - at least I don't think I do - well, not on purpose, anyway - sometimes the ugly leaks out of me, too).

Glad you have your drugs! Yippee! Keep feeling better, Dearheart!

Matt-Man said...

Rat: Based upon what you said about Ryno's mom I can see that you and I share a common trait.

Always trying to find the best in a person.

I should be good to go now that I have my antibiotics. Thanks for everything Ena. Cheers Adorable One!!

Bond said...

I know your ex...she sounds like mine

But, as Katherine said...Ryno should have gotten a call the moment you decided to go to the hospital and the moment you left - practice or not dude...that is your blood...

do not do that again...ok?

Matt-Man said...

Bond: You agree with Kat? I am SHOCKED!! Cheers Vin!!

katherine. said...

you say that like it's a bad thing?

Matt-Man said...

Kat: Ha...Not at all. It amuses me on a different plane. Cheers Kat!!

Four Dinners said...

My mother is known as The Dragon. Trust me. She'd beat em hands down on the evil front!

Matt-Man said...

Four D: Hee Hee...I am glad to see that you have survived the evil. Cheers 4D!!